A relationship

I have been married for 21 years gone December last. What a tour that has been and not a tour of duty but a fun filled entertaining ride. Would I do anything different? Maybe travelled a little bit more before the kids came around although we had a wonderful 6 week trip together of Canada, where I was born. That's about all i'd change.
I have found and I can't speak for anybody else, because all relationships are different, that keeping it real and being blatantly honest has held us in good order. At times me being honest or Wendy being honest has hurt, but I have discovered very early in our relationship that if we want it to last the distance then our ego, our hearts, our ideals need to be offended, tested, adjusted and scrutinised with a fine tooth comb.
The other night we had a heart to heart about a few things that are bothering us about each other and wanted to keep a check on it. THere were tears from both, but what we have realised is that there ain't much so far that has casued us to feel like it is time to break away and move on. That is not an option. In the morning wendy wrote a note on my back. I had to get one of the kids to read it to me as she would not and she went to work. It said "I think you need to stop thinking so much and chill out and have a nice day... I Love you" HOnest and what I needed to hear at the time. I continue to realise that my partner has a huge amount of wisdom and insight that everyone else may not always see. I feel really priviledged and blessed. I love my wife more than I did when we first got married because I have chosen to get to know her. Food for thought I think. I would love to put more photos of Wendy on my Blog, but she doesn't want the whole world to see her. My Angel in disguise. I thought of putting a different person up to represent her, but that's just weird.